Comments on: Silent treatment

by: sweetney

Tue, 11 Jul 2006 02:33:37 +0000

umm, yeah, i see ISPs all the time that kind of creep me out, but force myself to put the blinders on for the sake of my sanity. were i to not do that, there’s no way i could continue.

by: 2fs

Sat, 08 Jul 2006 20:48:00 +0000

This is probably why I’ve never bothered to figure out how to check ISP logs and all that technical mumbo-jumbo. Whoever reads my blog reads it - either they’ll say something to me via comments or real life, or they’ll ignore it and snicker to themselves behind my back, going “my god what a blithering idiot he is…” Fortunately, I have no ex-wives to worry about - just an ex-gf with whom I was, at last contact, on perfectly fine terms. I don’t think my mom would bother reading my blog even if I mentioned it - not because she wouldn’t care but because (as has been noted) I create too many sentences. That is my defense: type fiendishly and people will become overwhelmed.

by: debbie

Sat, 08 Jul 2006 20:20:32 +0000

ooh, understandably weirded out! kinda makes me glad that i’m too computer illiterate to do all that ISP and stat checking stuff. :)

keep writing whatever you feel comfortable with! i’ll be reading!

ps: are you coming to town?? we’d love to see you and the pathetic one!

by: LLA

Sat, 08 Jul 2006 12:38:03 +0000

I’ve missed you, that’s for certain - particularly as it seemed like things slowed down here about the time I showed up! (Hope that’s a coincidence….)

I think, though, that I understand the weirded-out feeling. Well, scratch that, I don’t understand your particular weirded-out feeling - but I’d be weirded out, too, in the situation that you describe.

I have started to struggle with the “when my blog life and my real life intersect” thing….
It’s strange, a woman with whom I work is a real crafty girl. I didn’t know this, as our paths didn’t cross very much. But of course we ended up visiting the same sites, and she (of course) recognized my initials in comments that I made. (in retrospect, I probably should have made up a clever name for myself, instead of using the same dorky nickname that gets used in real life…) She then discovered BadFortuneCookie - and read it for weeks before she came up to me at work and announced that “she knew my secret identity!” Which was totally disconcerting, since I hadn’t thought of it in that way….

Although, in that case, it turned out OK - we actually discovered that we had lots of common interests and have started a friendship. Which is nice, but it made me realize that “wow - there really are people who read this thing…” And it makes you feel a little overprotective about keeping that distance between the two spheres.

For example, I have never told my mom that I have a blog. For starters, I’m not wholly certain that that would mean very much to her. And it would make sense to tell her about it, because I know that she would love to see the bears that I’ve been working on, etc. (She’s way crafty!)
But I’ve not told her, for the simple reason that it seems too darn weird. Not that there’s anything there that would offend her (except maybe the not-so-occasional grammatical error, which would bug her far more than the somewhat occasional swearing…), and it’s not like I have ever referred to either her or my father, nor do I plan to. It’s just, like you say, too weird.

It’s not like I intended for this to be some secret world, but I realize that I am not sharing the blog address with my college alumni magazine or adding it as a postscript to my Christmas cards. But then, is that even weirder? To share thoughts, etc. with people you’ve never met, and probably will never meet - and not with people that you care about?

Discuss amongst yourselves, I’ve blathered far too long about this…..