Comments on: The constant hurt http://www.patheticfallacy.org/2006/10/the-constant-hurt/ Mon, 21 May 2012 21:14:34 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.0.1 by: PlaySet http://www.patheticfallacy.org/2006/10/the-constant-hurt/#comment-77358 Fri, 20 Jan 2012 06:27:36 +0000 http://www.patheticfallacy.org/2006/10/the-constant-hurt/#comment-77358 I feel broke when I got to read the first part of your post. I've missed my Dad so much. He was the best father in the whole wide world. He never saw me graduate in college. And the most painful is, we haven't done our plans yet. My children haven't got the chance to see him and experience how wonderful he was. So sad, but I know wherever he is, he's absolutely happy right now. I love you DAD! I feel broke when I got to read the first part of your post. I’ve missed my Dad so much. He was the best father in the whole wide world. He never saw me graduate in college. And the most painful is, we haven’t done our plans yet. My children haven’t got the chance to see him and experience how wonderful he was. So sad, but I know wherever he is, he’s absolutely happy right now. I love you DAD!

]]> by: Paula http://www.patheticfallacy.org/2006/10/the-constant-hurt/#comment-5386 Thu, 02 Nov 2006 02:43:02 +0000 http://www.patheticfallacy.org/2006/10/the-constant-hurt/#comment-5386 Oh, Amy, I had no idea (haven't been checking blogs very regularly). I don't want to just reiterate what everyone else said, but it's all true: your dad does sound like a really special guy (as evidenced also by his really special daughter), you are totally allowed to grieve in your own way and at your own pace, and go through every emotion, even the not-pretty ones like anger. And indeed, I am so glad you have a partner like Doug who is there for you. I'll keep you, your dad, and your family in my prayers. Love, P. Oh, Amy, I had no idea (haven’t been checking blogs very regularly).

I don’t want to just reiterate what everyone else said, but it’s all true: your dad does sound like a really special guy (as evidenced also by his really special daughter), you are totally allowed to grieve in your own way and at your own pace, and go through every emotion, even the not-pretty ones like anger. And indeed, I am so glad you have a partner like Doug who is there for you.

I’ll keep you, your dad, and your family in my prayers.

Love, P.

]]> by: Flasshe http://www.patheticfallacy.org/2006/10/the-constant-hurt/#comment-5355 Wed, 01 Nov 2006 00:55:12 +0000 http://www.patheticfallacy.org/2006/10/the-constant-hurt/#comment-5355 This is what I get for not keeping up with my blog reading. I didn't know a friend was in pain. Amy, I'm so sorry about your dad. He sounds like a fantastic guy. I know there's nothing I can say to make it better at a time like this, but I know you'll get through it. In the meantime, don't be afraid to be weak. Please take care of yourself. This is what I get for not keeping up with my blog reading. I didn’t know a friend was in pain. Amy, I’m so sorry about your dad. He sounds like a fantastic guy. I know there’s nothing I can say to make it better at a time like this, but I know you’ll get through it. In the meantime, don’t be afraid to be weak. Please take care of yourself.

]]> by: Rachel http://www.patheticfallacy.org/2006/10/the-constant-hurt/#comment-5324 Mon, 30 Oct 2006 15:40:27 +0000 http://www.patheticfallacy.org/2006/10/the-constant-hurt/#comment-5324 Hi- Joanna told me about the mix up with Open City. Then I looked at the next entry and saw that your father has passed away. I wanted to tell you that I am so so sorry. There are no words, of course. Sincerely, Rachel Sherman Hi-
Joanna told me about the mix up with Open City.
Then I looked at the next entry and saw that your father has passed away.
I wanted to tell you that I am so so sorry. There are no words, of course.
Sincerely,
Rachel Sherman

]]> by: Sue http://www.patheticfallacy.org/2006/10/the-constant-hurt/#comment-5315 Mon, 30 Oct 2006 00:56:59 +0000 http://www.patheticfallacy.org/2006/10/the-constant-hurt/#comment-5315 Amy, my sincere condolences. Take the time to mourn in your own way. There's no right or wrong, correct or incorrect, at times like these. I'm glad Doug is there for you; you & your family will be in my thoughts. Amy, my sincere condolences. Take the time to mourn in your own way. There’s no right or wrong, correct or incorrect, at times like these. I’m glad Doug is there for you; you & your family will be in my thoughts.

]]> by: 2fs http://www.patheticfallacy.org/2006/10/the-constant-hurt/#comment-5302 Sun, 29 Oct 2006 03:30:18 +0000 http://www.patheticfallacy.org/2006/10/the-constant-hurt/#comment-5302 Oh god, Amy - I am so sorry. I can't offer any advice based on experience, but I know you'll do what you can and will act as you do, through love, and that your friends and family will appreciate whatever you are able to do. Oh god, Amy - I am so sorry. I can’t offer any advice based on experience, but I know you’ll do what you can and will act as you do, through love, and that your friends and family will appreciate whatever you are able to do.

]]> by: Ezra http://www.patheticfallacy.org/2006/10/the-constant-hurt/#comment-5293 Sat, 28 Oct 2006 15:02:01 +0000 http://www.patheticfallacy.org/2006/10/the-constant-hurt/#comment-5293 I think it's one of those times it's OK to put your own oxygen mask on before assisting others, too. It's OK to help yourself first. Putting things into words can help (I'm sure that is not news, I know), but I suspect that public speaking is not natural for you in the best of times. Words tend to fail me at times like this (I think I totally failed to comfort my aunt and cousins when my uncle died this spring, other than by showing up), so I think the fact that you managed a post is an achievement. What Terri said is true of me, too: we keep thinking about you, and wishing we could bake something for you. I think it’s one of those times it’s OK to put your own oxygen mask on before assisting others, too. It’s OK to help yourself first. Putting things into words can help (I’m sure that is not news, I know), but I suspect that public speaking is not natural for you in the best of times. Words tend to fail me at times like this (I think I totally failed to comfort my aunt and cousins when my uncle died this spring, other than by showing up), so I think the fact that you managed a post is an achievement.

What Terri said is true of me, too: we keep thinking about you, and wishing we could bake something for you.

]]> by: Terri http://www.patheticfallacy.org/2006/10/the-constant-hurt/#comment-5292 Sat, 28 Oct 2006 14:14:11 +0000 http://www.patheticfallacy.org/2006/10/the-constant-hurt/#comment-5292 I don't know if I have any right to comment here, but I have been thinking about you (and your family, and Doug) so much lately, and if I can say anything that might help, I have to try. I am not a religious person, and maybe if I was I would feel differently, but that you're struggling to eulogize your father does not strike me as disrespectful or cold. Quite the contrary. I don’t know if I have any right to comment here, but I have been thinking about you (and your family, and Doug) so much lately, and if I can say anything that might help, I have to try. I am not a religious person, and maybe if I was I would feel differently, but that you’re struggling to eulogize your father does not strike me as disrespectful or cold. Quite the contrary.

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